With so many new definitions that try to explain gender and sexuality, it can start to get confusing trying to keep up with them all. One of the terms that gets thrown around a lot lately is “genderqueer.” If you are genderqueer you don’t identify with male or female traits, or you identify with a combination of traits. There is no line between masculine and feminine and some genderqueer people are androgynous.
Genderqueer people express their identity in many different ways. The genders can overlap, be fluid, or there might be no gender. Some people identify as being pangender, trigender, or bigender, or even having no gender at all. Some people don’t even name their gender.
Genderqueer is a catch-all term for any type of gender that doesn’t conform to the norms of society. Gender often comes down to more than being a man or a woman. People can identify with different genders during different periods of their lives. It isn’t necessary to be a certain gender and expressing yourself through your gender is a way to be who you really are.
Some people feel that they have to act a certain gender when they don’t really feel that way at all. They might feel predominately female one day and more male another day. There are many ways to express gender and the genderqueer term gives people a place to put what they are feeling when it falls outside of the norms.
Gender norms are so pervasive in society and it feels good to have a place to put what you are feeling. More attention is coming to transgender people and people are starting to understand more about people who don’t fit the male or female stereotype. With social issues becoming more and more up front and center, it might be time for a conversation about what it means to be genderqueer.
Sexuality doesn’t mean you have to be one thing or another and being genderqueer shows people that there are multiple genders that can be fluid and always changing. People don’t always fit neatly into stereotypical behavior. Not everyone falls into a neat gender norm.
Everybody is different and we all have a unique way to express our identities. If you are genderqueer you don’t have to label yourself as just male or female. You can embody the spectrum of what it means to be a person.