Coming out of the closet can be one of the most difficult and exciting times of your life. This often depends on the viewpoints of those around you and your family, friends, schoolmates, work colleagues, neighbors, and church members. Even if you have a very supportive network, it can still be a daunting task.
The most important thing is that you need to do what is right for you. But in any case, you should be prepared. If you believe the people in your life are going to react negatively, you may want to approach the revelation carefully.
Breaking the news to your parents can be the most difficult part. If they are conservative or religious, it may even be a painful experience. If you are a minor or living at home with your parents and believe that they may kick you out, disown you, or financially harm you, it’s ok to wait. There’s nothing wrong with waiting until you’re in a more stable environment on your own to break the news.
The best way is to sit down with them and tell them the truth. Explain how you feel, and be honest. You may want to have someone supportive that you trust. Ideally, it will be a family member in the know, or a supportive friend that your parents like, who can help smooth things over if they get tough.
Sharing the news may not always be as bad as you expect. If you think most of the people in your life will be supportive (or if you’re the type of person who likes to do things in a big way and you simply don’t care what people think) you may want to consider a lighthearted way of breaking the big news.
From sending a bouquet of flowers or balloons with a message to getting creative and making the announcement via a YouTube video or an Instagram post, here are a variety of unique ways to share your big news. You could bake a cake that says “Guess who’s gay?” or throw a “Surprise, I’m Gay!” party. You may even take a sentimental slant and queue up a touching slideshow of pictures of you growing up (complete with sappy music, of course), that ends with a picture of yourself today, smiling and holding up a card that says “I’m gay.”
Regardless of how you choose to come out, make sure it’s the way that feels right for you, and line up plenty of support as you enter the next chapter of your life out of the closet!